2017 · Dating/Relationships · Social Media's · Uncategorized

That time I got called a fuck boy…

She kept calling my phone, I asked her to stop. She sent me imessages and texts back to back so I warned her again to stop. She added my snap, I blocked her there. She kept messaging my phone. I told her that if she kept going I would block her on everything. She called me a fuckboy and dared me to do it. So I did it.

Lol, why I got to be a fuck boy though. Bad communicator maybe, too blunt at times yes, a moody old man shit yeah but fuckboy? Nah.

Why is it that the brothers like myself don’t get any credit? Rhetorical question because we don’t want credit but for the sake of this post this question will be asked. You know the guy who you tell you want a relationship with and he says no and instead of continuing he leaves you alone because he doesn’t feel the same way and doesn’t want to hold you hostage. Hell, maybe it’s the guy who wants a relationship and you don’t so he no longer pressures you and leaves you alone so he can find someone on that same level. The guy who takes the hint when you aren’t really feeling him and stops hitting you up all the time. You know the guy who has nothing to really talk about so instead of texting you “wyd” all day doesn’t bother you at all or lets you know he is busy. Lol, or when you ask does he miss you he tells the truth… even if that means he doesn’t. When you ask why haven’t they made plans to go out and we say because I’m on a budget or it’s the weekend in between paydays lol. The guy who remains true to himself despite knowing that by doing so he could lose out on you. It is better to be true and honest than fake. I can’t count how many times I saw men do what it took to get a woman despite them knowing that it wasn’t who they were, only to change back to being who they truly were once the task was accomplished.

The men like myself, however, these are the real superheroes out here. No time for the games, back and forth, leading you on… none of that.

Yeah, we may vanish sometimes without much notice but that’s fine too lol. I mean we can’t all be perfect.

Ok, that is enough self-promotion. Let’s get back on this fuckboy topic. I have been called a lot of things in my 34 years on this earth by women. Liar, lazy, asshole, mean, broke, jackass, jerk…you name it, it has been said. Lol but fuckboy?

I googled the word and so many things popped up lol. I compiled a list of 9 that I saw from various websites. Interesting descriptions…

1. A ‘fuckboy’ is a young man who sleeps with women without any intention of having a relationship with them or perhaps even walking them to the door post-sex. He’s a womanizer, an especially callous one, as well as kind of a loser.”
2. He uses phrases like, “keep me posted” and, “let’s stay in touch” when you invite him to come out instead of just giving you a straight answer.
3. His friends don’t seem to know who you are, which means chances are slim he’s raving about you to them.
4. When other guys flirt with you in front of him he seems totally unfazed, not in a chill, do-whatever-you-want-because-I’m-a-feminist way, but in the honestly-could-not-care-less-about-you way.
5. He’s never initiated taking a picture with you, and he’s never posted one of you guys hanging out on his social media.
6. a boy who fucks with girls’ feelings by leading them on and making them feel like shit
7. He will lead girls on just for hookups, says hes really into you but doesn’t want to deal with all the “relationship bullshit” just to mess with you. He thinks about himself and only himself all the time, but pretends to be really nice. He always walks with his squad never alone. He will say hi to you once then won’t talk to you for the rest of the day. YOU HAVE TO TEXT THEM FIRST BECAUSE THEY “FORGET” He seems quiet but in reality he just a fuck boy
8. a guy who doesn’t respect women, yet relies on them heavily. He’s a guy who’s distant, doesn’t care about a woman’s time, and won’t commit. He’s self-absorbed and is never looking for anything serious relationship-wise.
9. When you ask him if he’s seeing anyone else, he avoids answering and says something like, “you don’t have to worry about that”

Lol ok. Of course, I have to dispute these claims. It’s only right.

1. This implies that there is something wrong with casual sex. I would like to think that women are liberated enough to engage in such activity and that men are open minded enough not to judge the woman if that happens. Besides, there are a lot of women who I have dated who never received penis so nope this doesn’t apply.
2. I never give straight answers because I am an introverted flake. I can commit to anyone male or female as far as hanging out and the day that it is supposed to happen I would rather sit my ass at home and do nothing.
3. I no longer really discuss my relationships with friends anymore or really talk about the person I am with. Mainly because they give bad advice and I don’t want to paint the person in a negative light because usually when we talk about a woman it is because she has pissed us off.
4. Sorry I am not the jealous type and if he can take you or if you don’t respect me enough not to engage then well good riddance.
5. Lol, can the relationship have some longevity before I post your ass? I am tired of deleting women’s pics off of my social media and I am tired of those damn FB memories reminding me of your ass.
6. Not the lead you on type, hell I think most people lead themselves on with their hopes, dreams, thoughts of potential. Instead of just seeing what is right in front of them. Also, the only way I hurt feelings is saying no. Is that a bad thing?
7. As I stated in number 6, no I will not lead you on. Then again is treating someone nice, going on dates, conversing and being respectful leading them on? They used to call that dating or courting in my day but maybe I am wrong? Also not going to fuck everyone. Yes, I tend to think of myself first as a single man, however, I am also aware of the person I am dating. Lol, I’m almost always alone. No, you don’t have to text me first but I rarely double text people.
8. I don’t rely on anyone, man or woman. Yes, I can be distant. I can also be self-absorbed but that is because I am so flawed and know that I have so much to work on. This is where most of my focus lies. Commitment is not an issue. Hell, I was cuffed not too long ago lol.
9. Nah, I will tell you the truth. I just think that sometimes people find it hard to believe when I tell them I am not seeing anyone else. They find it hard to believe that I am just sitting up in my room like Brandy lol, not doing shit or just working out, writing and minding my business. Despite proof on various forms of social media lol.

See I’m no fuckboy. I am just an introverted, flake, self-absorbed, blunt, overthinking, sometimes grumpy old man who is trying to get his life together. Get your diagnosis correct thank you lol.

 

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