2017 · Dating/Relationships · Social Media's · Uncategorized

They need a degree…

I saw a guy post this “name on a degree and not a club flyer” meme and said that it’s a major key. Lol um ok, I guess?

What are you looking for in a partner? I see this question quite often on social media and it never fails, one of the top responses are “well, he/she needs to have a degree”. I also notice that in conversation with women who may be interested in me they are quick to tell me that they have a degree. I suppose that people equate having a degree with being educated, smarter and an overall catch?

Let’s be real, part of this has to be that it’s more about the money or potential earning power than the degree. We are told that with a degree it opens up the potential for better jobs and with better jobs means more money traditionally. Fair argument.

So let’s talk about this. What do we really learn in college? Outside of some information that we barely retained in college or things that apply to our career. Personally, I learned about my alcohol tolerance, a few dance moves, how to be fake around people (lol this helps with work and in some relationships) sex, and how to juggle multiple women lol. Seriously, those college years can be pretty bad. People experiment with drugs (yes alcohol is a drug), pick up bad habits, party, gain weight, be lazy, act crazy and have lots of sex (I want to go back lol). All positive things you are looking for in a partner correct?

Of course, some of us may have “grown out” of some of our negative habits in college but for others, we still carry these habits with us but I digress. My point is that we may need to reevaluate this requirement.

I laughed at the club flyer post I mentioned earlier because so often I think that some men assume that “educated woman” equals a “good woman”. Lol as if the woman on the club flyer isn’t good or educated. Bare with me people. There are some men out here who, wait for it, actually care about certain things such as a woman’s level of sexual activity. I know, shocking huh? Well, these same men assume that the woman on the flyer is a groupie, parties all the time and has sex with lots of men. Soooo fellas what do you think the woman in college did? She could have very well been a groupie for athletes, frat guys or the local dope boys in that city. She probably could have drunk and partied a lot and there is a chance that she could have had lots of sex. Lol, and you wonder why she has so many male friends on Facebook and why whenever a certain player on Monday Night Football introduces himself she cheers randomly or mentions “I went to school with him” Lol. Then you have those homecomings and random events that she always goes back to but never wants you to attend with her lol.

This scenario was given to prove a point and does not reflect my opinion on a woman’s sexuality. I am all for sexually liberated women. Hell, if women weren’t sexually liberated my never married ass would have never had sex lol.

Also, just because she is on a flyer or maybe even in the club it doesn’t mean she isn’t “wifey” material. Could be a side hustle, getting over a breakup, or you just caught her in there that one time she goes out a month. Maybe she got a babysitter finally lol. It can be any reason. Still, it doesn’t mean she is bad relationship material.

Ok, ladies your turn. Some of you prefer the white collar or corporate guy with the degree over the blue collar guy. Let me guess, he is more cultured, travels more, makes more money and smarter. That culture is cool I guess, but I can argue that most “culture” is common sense, which can’t be taught in college lol. I am sure quite a few non-educated men know how to act in certain settings and I are informed enough on current events that they could function in certain settings. Not to mention that a lot of that behavior is fake with the college guys. See that is something else we learned in college. How to act and approach women. We leave our hometowns and learn how to dress, act and look the part. Now some people do grow and change and are sincere but some are just good actors lol. Yes, it is also dope that he travels… usually to smash other random women lol. The make more money thing is a double edged sword. With more money comes more attention and status. Oh yeah, and women lol. So yeah he makes good money and takes you to that nice restaurant you like but he takes the other 4 women he is talking to there also. Oh yeah, and can we talk about the women to men ratio. If only I had known this in my younger days, I really could have racked up lol. Now I am old and too afraid to get caught up with a coworker and losing my job so I won’t cross that line, but damn, some women will make you want to risk it all. I am also learning that a lot of these jobs that people assume make great money really don’t. See, some people only get paid in the title lol. That “executive assistant liaison to the director” really don’t make shit.  He wears a suit daily tho, has degrees and goes to meetings and has a work phone but is in debt out the ass and one check away from being homeless. As a matter of fact more often than not there are some blue collar jobs that pay very well, google them lol. Should I even bring up these business owners and entrepreneurs who have no degree? I’m not even going to bring up Bill Gates lol. Ok, I just did. Oh yeah and that smarter thing is debatable as well. Maybe he knows a few SAT words but he could be dumb as hell. Shit, with all of the resources we have outside of school knowledge, is everywhere.

The make more money thing is a double edged sword. With more money comes more attention and status. Oh yeah, and women lol. So yeah he makes good money and takes you to that nice restaurant you like but he takes the other 4 women he is talking to there also. Oh yeah, and can we talk about the women to men ratio. If only I had known this in my younger days, I really could have racked up lol. Only a few men and all of these women hoping to get his attention lol. Now I am old and too afraid to get caught up with a coworker and losing my job so I won’t cross that line, but damn, some women will make you want to risk it all. I get it lol. I am also learning that a lot of these jobs that people assume make great money really don’t. See, some people only get paid in the title lol. That “executive assistant liaison to the director” really don’t make shit.  He wears a suit daily tho, has degrees and goes to meetings and has a work phone but is in debt out the ass and one check away from being homeless. As a matter of fact more often than not there are some blue collar jobs that pay very well, google them lol. Should I even bring up these business owners and entrepreneurs who have no degree? I’m not even going to bring up Bill Gates lol. Ok, I just did, I lied. Oh yeah and that smarter thing is debatable as well. Maybe he knows a few SAT words but he could be dumb as hell. Besides, with all of the resources we have outside of school knowledge, is everywhere and easily attainable.

I get it though ladies and gentlemen. We all have preferences and this happens to be one of them for quite a few people. I was just shocked that so many people felt this way. If this is a requirement I say go for it but do your research. Don’t just fall for the old “I have a degree” line and assume that he or she is a good person or makes good money or has good morals. You may be in for a rude awakening.

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