Who I want…

So, now let's address the elephant in the room. If those guys are fitting the external things you are asking for there is a chance that they are lacking in other areas. Maybe they are corny, don't have an edge, work too much, boring, too nice or hell, maybe they suck in bed. I swear I saw a woman post that unemployed or broke boy penis is the best and so many women cosigned. So are you willing to make that exchange?

The culture…

Buying someone a meal or taking them out does not mean that sex will happen. If you prefer a more traditional barter system go to backpage. Exchange money for services. Also back to the flyout thing, I don't care what freaky things she sexted you, I don't care if you exchanges nudes, I don't care if she said she will suck you like a vacuum. Hell, I don't care if you have a room and she is sleeping in it that night. Still, doesn't mean sex will happen.

Do not engage…

You know, there is something about a man stating his preference or commenting on a woman's looks that really make people fly off of the edge. Before you know it you are ashy or dusty, your dick small, you hate black women, your momma ugly and your baby momma too (if you have one) and no one wants you.