The battle against or between feminism and masculinity seems to be prevalent on social media.
It’s almost like watching a boxing match. I see both sides first analyze someone’s posts, then make alternating points against each other.
I am also amazed how people conveniently pick and choose what aspects they want to apply to their argument and/or beliefs. I suppose like everything else you don’t have to fully adhere to certain things. I imagine Christians pick and choose what they want to practice and believe in. Hell, so do citizens of this country, we definitely pick and choose what laws we want to follow.
Sometimes I think that people on both sides of this argument may be a little bored or lonely at times and just want someone to love or entertain them. In fact, I think some of you should hook up with each other.
As I analyze (and by analyzing I mean browse over once lol) both sides of these arguments I am amused at how we pick and choose what we want to do. Even better, it amazes me to see what double standards or traditions we seem to be ok with.
You have feminist out there who want a man to be traditional and pay the bills. Meanwhile, you have these men who preach masculinity thinking that women should split the bills. Hell, you have women who accuse men of fat shaming turnaround and shame a man for being too short and vice versa.
Isn’t that a little confusing?
Fortunately, there isn’t a right or wrong way to live your life and we all are allowed to have our own expectations or preferences. Even if it does come off as hypocritical. You can be 100% feminist until the check comes and you can be 100% masculine until the monthly utilities show up in your email and you are splitting bills.
Just do me this favor, the next time you make your arguments I want you to make sure that you actually know what you are talking about. I think that so often we say or use words that we truly do not know the meaning of but we hear others use them. So you know what, thanks to google and some downtime at work I am going to help you guys out. So the next time I see this “battle of the sexes” on my news feed some of you will not sound so crazy.
Here are a few words that you may use in your discussion.
Gender – the state of being male or female (typically used with reference to social and cultural differences rather than biological ones).
Sex – either of the two main categories (male and female) into which humans and many other living things are divided on the basis of their reproductive functions.
Feminism – the advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.
Sexism – prejudice, stereotyping, or discrimination, typically against women, on the basis of sex.
gender neutral – suitable for, applicable to, or common to both male and female genders. “gender-neutral games and toys”
equality – the state of being equal, especially in status, rights, and opportunities.
gender role – the role or behavior learned by a person as appropriate to their gender, determined by the prevailing cultural norms.
Masculinity – possession of the qualities traditionally associated with men.
tradition – the transmission of customs or beliefs from generation to generation, or the fact of being passed on in this way.
chivalry –courteous behavior, especially that of a man toward women.
etiquette – the customary code of polite behavior in society or among members of a particular profession or group.
Example: A man can argue about the attack on his masculinity and speak on tradition and gender roles. A woman can then speak about how feminism is not an attack on masculinity, women just want equality. Then the man will have to decide, if I stick with what is traditional I will have to do all traditional things such as paying for dates, leading, paying all bills. Whereas he can agree and not have to take on that load of being financially responsible for everything and other aspects of the dating/relationship process that is usually done by the man. Hell, men could flip this into not always having to take out the trash and women can flip this into not always being expected to cook lol.
So, I hope this random post helped. I imagine with these few words you can not only argue for or against your belief but you can also offer rebuttals. I just want you guys to be great and to continue entertaining me online with the back and forth between each other, it’s cute lol.